28 Mar Marriage of Thorns.
Asset or liability? Chose one.
Marriage of thorns is a marriage full of trouble. It is far from happiness, peace, and joy.
God is ultimately the author of marriage, and he has the blueprint of how marriage should be.
Marriage is designed to raise different families to glorify God and to raise soldiers for the kingdom of heaven. In every marriage, there should be peace, joy, and happiness.
It’s rather unfortunate that countless marriages today are walking in the opposite direction. The devil has so much take hold of marriages that what people experience most in marriage is thorn, where what is supposed to bring joy starts to bring bitterness and wrath
A place that aught to be a refuge turned to a den of tears.
The kind of marriage that produces some never leaves anything for them to desire concerning marriage. They only believe that the only thing that is good about marriage is that it is a channel to have children. The moment that is achieved, the rest is a story.
As you read this article, I pray, you will not enter into a marriage of thorns. It can strangle life out of its victims.
There is no place left that people can bend to for solace in a marriage of thorns. Thorns are everywhere, ready to pierce whose ever steps on it.
Who did this?
Thorns do not just jump from nowhere. It has sources. In most cases, people are not careful enough to discern the agent of thorns in marriage. There are always signs to know that things are about to go wrong.
At that point, caution is therefore expected.
The thorns we are referring to here are problems, challenges in different angles, misunderstandings, quarrels, and disunity.
Thorns in marriage have agents. Before thorns can surface in any marriage, the agents are the first to appear.
Agent of thorn
1. Anger
2. Lack of a mentor
3. Leave, but not cleaved
Anger.
Anger is the negative reaction of every individual towards unpleasant, either genuine or counterfeit action. At the preliminary level, it does not produce thorns, except the one that proceeds to an extreme level. That is where caution is recommended.
Anger is a dangerous disease that can end a whole family in one day without thinking twice. Anyone with the spirit of anger behaves foolish and irrationally,
Ecclesiastes 7:9
9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
We have seen in some cases where people will just get angry, kill their wives, and the children. Some will do this, only to find out that the reason while he did that was not genuine.
When anger begins in marriage, and it rises above normal, it leaves no place for peace.
No matter how grievous an offense is, towards you, never be quick to respond or take action. Otherwise, you may be irrational in your reaction, and you will be guilty.
If you can control your anger by staying calm, quiet, and patient, you will be on top of the matter. And you will be the one to be apologized to.
Get rid of the anger
St. Mark 11
11 Jesus entered Jerusalem and went into the temple courts. He looked around at everything, but since it was already late, he went out to Bethany with the Twelve.
12 The next day as they were leaving Bethany, Jesus was hungry.
13 Seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, he went to find out if it had any fruit. When he reached it, he found nothing but leaves, because it was not the season for figs.
14 Then he said to the tree, “May no one ever eat fruit from you again.” And his disciples heard him say it.
19 When evening came, Jesus and his disciples went out of the city.
20 In the morning, as they went along, they saw the fig tree withered from the roots.
Do this
For a week, every morning before going out and at night before you go to bed, say this:
You, the spirit of anger in me, I curse you, wither from the root in Jesus’ name.
Take note of the result for the one week. If you see some result, you can go ahead and do more for total victory.
Leaving but not cleaving.
Leaving but not cleaving is a big issue that gives birth to thorns in marriage. Many left their parents, friends, and relatives to be joined to a man or a woman as a spouse, but they do not cleave to their spouse for oneness the Bible recommends for marriage. They still take instructions from either friends or family to run their home, which usually puts the other party in a tight corner.
Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Once you move into a marriage, marriage is a business, and you must face the business and make profits. Your profit in that marriage is what people want to emulate for. I hope you know the profits we’re referring to here are not monitory but the result of your good work in the marriage.
Lack of a mentor
There is nohow wise you are that you don’t need a marriage mentor. Just because people ignore this area, Satan takes advantage of that. Every matter is bigger than the one in it, so far, it is still unravelled. It doesn’t matter your level of education. For you to succeed in marriage, you must have a mentor who can talk to you over any issue at any time. Someone you can release your confidence to for anything.
Even if you are a pastor, since your ministry is not marriage, you must talk to someone who is professional in the area of marriage with Bible knowledge that can listen to you and address the issue with you. What the problem is, may be so little.
It is the person in that ministry that can quickly identify the problem and point it out to you, and tell you what to do.
Summary
Marriage of thorns is a marriage full of pains, agony, and tears. In most cases, the causes are not tough, they only feed on people’s ignorance to thrive.
Your prayer, patience, being positive, marriage mentor’s counsel and obedience will work wonders to bring peace.
Who is your marriage mentor?
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