24 Mar Marriage is Deeper Than you Think.
Just don’t be a victim.
The more you look, the less you see, is the case of every young man and lady who is about to enter into a marriage. The womb of marriage is so deep that there is a limit to what they can see when they look into it. They therefore need to make the race accurate by not putting the cart before the horse. Premarital coaching, teaching, training, seminars, or counselling is paramount to have the pre-knowledge of what marriage looks like.
There are ups and downs in marriage. The successful ones are those who knew it before the game starts. Taking Premarital coaching, teaching, trainings, seminar, or counselling is more or less getting an Expo to what you are going to meet beforehand.
No athlete learns how to run a race in a context; otherwise he has no choice than to fail. You don’t go into marriage to learn its rudiments and succeed.
Marriage is a place of action, reactions, and demonstrations. You need to learn the inside of marriage from outside before your Union. This makes you a ready candidate for the race.
It’s the reason we lay so much emphasis on the need to undergo premarital coaching, training, seminars, or counselling before the wedding.
Crush the battle.
Don’t wait for anyone to push you, get up and prepare yourself ahead. Crush the battles that have destroyed so many people in marriages before you enter.
Don’t wait to get to the bridge to learn how to cross it. Learn the crossing before getting to the bridge.
Those who are facing the challenges now said the same thing before they got married, that we will cross the bridge when we get there. Only for them to get there and discover that the game does not go the way they thought. It is difficult to do. The price is heavy when you get there. It’s better you pay it now, pay it ahead
Premarital coaching.
Premarital coaching has the weapons that can help tackle the battles that usually occur in marriage from the foundation, which do laid ambush waiting to destroy a couple at its appointed time. These kinds of issues in matrimony are actually avoidable if the party involved are wise enough to seek help.
Ignorance is the highest form of marriage killer that people learned how to live with despite the pains it inflicts on them. What a man does not know is difficult to understand, he will keep on making mistakes around it, until he finds someone to furnish him with the knowledge. As it was in Acts 8:27-31
[27]And he arose and went: and, behold, a man of Ethiopia, an eunuch of great authority under Candace queen of the Ethiopians, who had the charge of all her treasure, and had come to Jerusalem for to worship,
[28]Was returning, and sitting in his chariot read Esaias the prophet.
[29]Then the Spirit said unto Philip, Go near, and join thyself to this chariot.
[30]And Philip ran thither to him, and heard him read the prophet Esaias, and said, Understandest thou what thou readest?
[31]And he said, How can I, except some man should guide me? And he desired Philip that he would come up and sit with him.
Benefits of premarital coaching.
1. Balances emotion with reality.
Premarital coaching balances things between emotion and reality. It opens the eyes of the individual to the reality of every matter, instead of bowing to emotion. Whatever one must do to achieve a result is a reality that no one must let emotion take it over to have maximum result. It helps to know what to do per time.
2. Weight of communication.
Premarital coaching teaches the importance of communication in marriage and emphasis on the weight it has against challenges in making marriage a home to individual. Communication has healing substance to cure every marriage of any problem.
3. How to handle conflict.
There is no marriage as far as this world is concerned that will not at a time or the other face one or two misunderstandings that will requires the couple’s attention and wisdom. Lack of the knowledge about how people can handle conflict in their marriages has plugged so many marriages into a needless quarrel, which eventually resulted to divorce. Premarital training always prepares couples to have the foreknowledge of the likely conflict they may encounter in their marriages and how to address them.
4. Teaches finance.
Finance has always been one of the top most points that cause misunderstanding in marriage. Finance is very key in making marriage keep working. The ideology of some individuals about finance is anti marriage.
● They don’t believe there is any money person cannot spend at a time.
● Some believe that the husband’s money is everybody’s money, but madam’s money is for madam alone.
● Some believe they are not accountable to anyone; therefore they can do anything they want with their money.
● Some do not believe in investment and that is how they live their lives. Etc
Premarital training helps to change the existing orientation of couples on how to handle money in marriage as against what they know about from the foundation. This helps to avoid conflict that can lead to crisis in marriage, therefore
build a better family through the financial knowledge acquired ahead of the union.
5. Forster intimacy.
Premarital training teaches people and couples the place of intimacy in marriage. It promotes intimacy by telling them what to do to be intimate to one another.
6. Solid foundation.
In everything, foundation is marriage. Whatever that happens in any marriage today can be traced back to the foundation, either good or bad.
Psalms 11:3
[3] If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Solid foundation into every marriage is very paramount. And it is a product of premarital training. Premarital training modes every relationship content to offer the best to the marriage, no matter how difficult it may to achieve.
There may be wind, there may be storm, but the house built on a rock can never break or collapse.
Luke 6:47-48
[47] Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like:
[48] He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
7. Exposes divorce.
The secret of divorce and how to avoid it is with premarital coaching. Divorce is very flexible, but strong and crafty to craw into a marriage to destroy and tear the family apart. The Pre-knowledge to this has a greater power to cage divorce and its associates.
8. Commitment.
Premarital coaching gives a comprehensive analysis of how commitment works to rescue every marriage that cares to apply commitment from separation, cracks, divorce or regular quarrel and fighting in a marriage. It may be true that what seems to have happened actually happened, and it is enough to give birth to any of the above agents. With commitment, the one at the receiving end will offer himself to rescue the marriage from being collapse. This is the one that will say under no condition will he or she allow the marriage to break. That is the work of commitment, it’s not that the partner is perfect.
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