25 Feb Good Marriage.
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A good marriage has no replacement.
There is nothing anyone can use to replace a good marriage, once marriage is peaceful, many other goodies will follow.
The reason being that success, joy, happiness, and many good and perfect gifts can only thrive in a marriage where God’s presence is present.
St. Matthew 6:33
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.
Seek ye first, a godly relationship, courtship, and marriage in which all other benefits shall be added onto you. Among is making a marriage blissful.
Blissful Home.
A blissful marriage is characterized by a deep sense of connection, support, and love between both partners. It thrives on mutual respect, trust, and understanding, allowing both individuals to grow and flourish together.
A blissful marriage is a journey that demands continuous effort, unwavering commitment, and mutual nurturing from both partners. It is a collective path where growth, understanding, and love are cultivated together, promoting a strong and lasting bond built on trust and respect
Making marriage blissful is the responsibility of both the husband and wife. While one steers the ship, the other watches out and gives every necessary support. They both have roles to play.
The role of a couple to make marriage blissful.
1. Upgrading her.
a. A static woman is an unproductive potential material, whose potential could have been invested into for a maximum harvest of reward for the benefit of their marriage.
To make a marriage blissful, a husband must upgrade his wife to match the present day required ability to make the family proud among women of substance. She can stand among her equals, even at the city’s gate. She will never be left out at the back of the city (international world).
b. A wife has the responsibility to support her husband to succeed in all his endeavour in life. Provided it is not against the will of God. This is how marriage and family can grow positively, therefore brings happiness to the home.
It is high time for couples to do away with “fight for yourself syndrome.
2. Forgiveness.
If a couple wish to be happy in their marriage, it is not a matter of necessity but compulsory to forgive one another. Except it is, or your orientation made it to be so, that there can be a marriage that will never have misunderstanding. The one that the couple will not offend each other.
Once we understand that as couple, we are bound to offend one another. When we offend ourselves, we must forgive. In every marriage, forgiveness is key.
This is how happiness can dwell richly in the marriage.
3. Good and sweet words.
a. A good and pleasant word edify and also control human’s system. If you want a woman to give you her best, say good thing to her. Every negative look will disappear from her.
If you also want a woman to display her worse, speak to run her down. Immediately, her body system will change and begins to work in a negative direction, thereby producing bad fruits. In the face of this, the marriage is nor save. There can be no happiness.
b. If a woman wants her husband to bring out the best that even looks impossible, she should praise the man. He would go the extra mile to make it work. That is the power of a good and sweet words.
4. Humour.
For happiness to find expression in a marriage, the couple must be humorous in nature. It is not all the time that one will be too serious. A tensed atmosphere can never produce anything good, that is when devil gain confidence to do more harm.
A wise couple must run an atmosphere that accommodates tolerance by turning some serious matters to a joke and leave it there for peace to reign.
5. A due honour.
Couples must honour themselves. Especially wife to her husband. A dishonoured husband is an angry husband. A hungry husband will never contribute his quota with joy and meaningfully, if he will do it at all. It may not affect the woman, but the children will be at a receiving end.
Directly or indirectly, both parents will receive the reward in the future, when they would not be able to correct many of the wrongs.
A woman who is denied honour especially when she offers all her best, can never spring sweet but bitterness, even when she has the capacity to do so, she would not be willing to do it because her esteem has been damaged.
Give honour to whom honour is due in marriage provides a conducive atmosphere for bliss to reign in the family.
Communication. Communication is one of the inevitable that marriage survival depends on. A marriage without Communication is a marriage full of confusion. There cannot be a road map to how things should be done in the marriage. Happiness in marriage is synonymous to effective communication in the family.
6. Vision support.
Every husband needs the support of his wife to be able to move his vision to desire stage. No visionary can run his vision alone. He requires support and this support begins from home. It’s not husband alone that do have vision.
There are women with visions that have sort world problems in their capacity. Women will continue to have vision. What vision does is that vision showcase the visionary to the world. Though, there are men who do not want it for their wives.
A selfish husband who does not want his wife to be great or grow is an ignorant person. If things are put in the right shape, there is nothing stopping a man not to support his wife’s vision.
A particular vision might be the purpose of the visionary by which God wants him or her to deliver results.
If a woman’s vision receives the support of her husband, it’s a plus. It makes the to work faster.
We are not ignorant of the fact that the fear of some men is the attitude of the women towards things. They believe that the moment they have the chance to express themselves and money begins to come into their pockets, they do become different persons entirely.
They no longer respect their husbands. It is an issue that some men live with, therefore find it difficult to always provide support to their wives’ vision.
8. Intimacy.
Intimacy in marriage is the foundation of a healthy and productive marriage by which the couple is physically, spiritually and emotionally connected to one another.
Areas of intimacy.
a. Physical intimacy.
It is the intimacy where there is a physical availability for, admiration, intercourse, holding, talks, walking together and affection. This is born out of easy accessibility to each other as couple to make the marriage blissful.
b. Spiritual intimacy.
It’s an intimacy where couple are spiritually bind by same belief and ideology for marital happiness.
c. Intellectual intimacy.
This is a kind of intimacy the places a couple on the same page of searching, acquiring knowledge. This helps to both steer the vehicle of the marriage in one direction by sharing ideas, understanding and also accepting defeat when it comes because of their level of understanding.
All for the happiness of the family.
d. Emotional intimacy.
It’s such an intimacy that stands to feel the purse, shares thought, hunger and passion of one another in marriage.
9. Domestic support.
Domestic support is vice versa. For a marriage to be blissful, it requires both the couple supporting one another.
Domestic work in the face of no house help might be so overwhelming for some women to cope with. They don’t mind having the support of their husbands to make it easier for them to achieve.
Majority of women who have enjoyed this kind of support are always reporting it with laughter and happiness on their faces.
Men are relieved when they have financial support from their wives to meet up with some domestic needs. It enhances the intimacy that exist in the family.
10. Appreciation.
No matter how little a gesture is from a spouse, it requires appropriation. Appreciation is a medicine for unwilling mind who eventually and forcefully rendered a benevolence to do more at will. When you thank your benefactor, you would get more from him or her.
When men balance their ego to sincerely appreciate their wives for every support the offer to achieve a purpose, they are always willing to do more.
Of course, appreciation is one of the weapons that women use to get what they want, and prepare ground for next time in the heart of their husbands.
If you are happy in your marriage, you don’t need to remain there. You must do everything to sustain the happiness. Always say thank you.
11. Trust.
When a man discovered that you are trustworthy, he would not remain in a former state of relating with you. He wants to show you more secrets because he has seen a good level of trust in you.
Women also want a man they can trust.
It is the desire of many women to bow to their husbands, but it must be a trustworthy man; Someone they can trust
This goes a long way to make marriage blissful.
This is nothing, but Golden counsel.
If anyone you want to marry has changed track from that of Jesus, no matter how long you have traveled with him/her in the journey to marriage, it is better for you to pause and examine very well whether you should continue or not.
If you base your ‘no going back’ on the statement that “God will change him/her” what you have just done is that you saw a problem and walked into it by yourself.
Heee, young man, young Lady you are still single, you can still change your decision if the one you have about marriage now is far from God. And go the right way.
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