15 Nov Marriage Treasures (series 1)
Defend your spouse
Security.
Never will you allow yourself into a marriage with a man or a woman who lacks security to offer. It would be a terrible mistake for a parent to allow or release her daughter to a man who cannot provide security for her in marriage.
In this case, security is not when a man has to go out of his way to hire a police officer or a bouncer to police a spouse against a third party.
Security in marriage here simply means an ability to stand up for one’s spouse anywhere at any time.
There are women you cannot try that with their husbands, they will never take it.
It is so terrible in some cases that a woman can be ridiculed in front of her husband, and nothing will happen. Such a man is a weakling and a coward.
Vice versa.
No woman must stand to accommodate any embarrassment against her husband, not even from family members. You must be able to protect your husband and secure him honour in your family and among friends.
If that is possible with a woman, more of that is expected of a man. One does not need to be violent to defend his wife, his position, his attitude, and reaction to things is enough to caution people around him and those who may want to subject his wife to a ridicule.
There are things that will happen, and a woman will see and begin to ask herself, “am I in a right marriage”? Because she’s left to herself.
Yet, there are things that will also happen to another person; she wouldn’t need to ask if the marriage she is into is a right one. Her confidence is built from the way her husband handles things.
The spirit of my family first is a spirit of “security or protection”.
The kind of man you are determined the kind of security and how much of it you can provide for your wife when a need arises. It is very possible that everybody in your family cannot like your wife.
At any occasion where such may arise, you must be able to defend her with modesty.
And if any decision is being taking concerning her that can lead to her defending herself, quickly stand up for her. In a cause of defending herself, someone in the family may pick offense from her talk, and that may lead to a quarrel. You will need to be her mouthpiece pending they will know her better and well.
Your position as the husband will tell if you are a ‘man in man’ or ‘a woman in man’. It will also tell if you are capable of being in charge of your home, or the family is the one running your home.
To them, as a third party, it may not be a crime to run your home for you, but it will be a crime for you to accept their position.
You must stand to prove that you are a real man by providing security for your wife.
There are families that control their Male children as to the women they should marry. They arrange for the woman they must marry.
There are still men today who keyed into such ideology. If a man is not capable enough to know what he wants as far as the issue of marriage is concerned, that shows something is wrong somewhere.
You must take this to heart, the family, or those members of a family who are in the business of choosing a woman for the men in their family usually do so, to control that marriage. No woman (a wife) in her right senses will want to accept that.
Many men who are subjected to this practically have nothing substantial to show for their labour. They became the ATM of their dictators.
Conclusion
Both the husband and wife must take it as a responsibility to protect and defend the spouse when necessary against embarrassment. Avoid external forces calling him or her names.
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