05 Oct Though Your Children are still young, but they Are Watching you!
How the children learn fast.
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Ignorantly, unknowingly, or by “I don’t care spirit,” many parents failed to understand that everything they do, their children are watching. How they fight, quarel, and abuse each other is a free family primary school of learning to the children. What they do, the children will do exactly, if not more.
The unworthy friends with unworthy slang that you usually bring home is another way of impacting the children. What you do in your marriage is a way of preparing the children to do the same when they start their own family. Where the mother nags over everything and daddy punishes mummy like punishing a little child, all they are doing is training the children that punishment is the best way to addressing issues.
If your own is to love, pray for the family, stay committed, and take your spouse and the children as your priority, that is what they will know and replicate in their own future marriage.
If your child finds you sitting on a man’s laps who is not their father, or the father kissing a woman who is not their mother,
they will do better. That family is already building a generational legal ground for the devil to accuse at any edge.
Children can do it.
Therefore, don’t do it in front of them.
1. Aggressive or hot arguments.
We have seen children practicing family formation among themselves. Where some will be the father, and a girl will stand as a mother, while some little ones take children’s position. They will start doing artificial cooking and other reasonable things that do occur between the father and the mother in the house. Like sending the children an errand within the house.
When you see them doing this, it would occur to you that the children are watching the steps of their parents. Therefore, it is mandatory that parents do everything to keep anything that can affect their mind away from them.
Aggressive argument are dangerous to be made in front of our children. They will copy this and ignorantly use it against their fellow children on the occasion of disconnection, which may lead to violence. Children cannot manage issues as adult would do. The best is to keep such away from them.
2. Disrespect for one another.
It’s not far-fetched, if parents respect themselves in their day-to-day activities. The children will follow suite, by the younger respecting the senior. If they do otherwise, they know their parents will frown at it because it’s against the value of the family.
Respect among the parents is crucial to raising a good family.
Parents, don’t disrespect yourself, and if it happens unconsciously, immediately you discover it, just go ahead and apologize. If the disrespect happened before the children, also let the apology take place before them to know that apologizing is not a crime, rather it builds families stronger.
3. Backbiting others.
The heart of children is so tender that anything they put there goes to their heart and stay. If you’re backbiting anyone where you have the children, either counterfeit or genuine, it is what you said that they heard and that is what they put in their mind. That is accurately the picture they will have in their heart concerning who you are carelessly backbiting before.
4. Disrespecting adults.
Don’t disrespect the adult before them, it amounts to bringing the adult down. They may not respect him or her. And that may adversely impact the children, thereby not making them relate with people consciously and with dignity.
5. Lying and the children backing.
Do not plug your children to the spirit of lies by directing them to lie for you.
Case study.
A creditor came to ask for a debt from her debtor, immediately the debtor heard the woman’s voice coming into their apartment, he quickly went to hide. He instructed one of the children around to tell the woman, he was not around. As soon as the woman came in, she asked about their father, the child said, “he said I should tell you, he’s not around”. Ignorantly released. The child said the truth that the statement was from their father. It occurred to the woman that the man was around, but hiding.
If that child will continue that way, he or she will finally become a master at lying, and later bringing shame to the family.
6. Exposing private parts.
Every sensitive part of parents’ body should be well covered at all time. The children are very inquisitive about knowing everything, and that is how they learn. Your body part they have never seen, and they are not meant for them to see, if they see it, they will quickly store it in their memory trying to process what it is.
You may think it doesn’t matter, it does matter.
If you are careless about your body part before the children, you may as well be careless about securing your bedroom
Unconsciously, one day you will get engaged in love making and they will witness it. In some of these sensitive practices, it is crucial for parents to dot every I and cross every T properly before taken off.
7. Lack of patience and anger.
Deficiency in character is the mother of all bad conducts. Including lack of patience and anger. Any parent who cannot control his or her anger is just laying eggs, when it begins to hatch he or she may not be able to stand the consequences.
In front of children, parents must know how to practice patience and put anger into a serious control. They are simply watching the steps of their parents, especially how they display anger. Gradually they will start displaying it among themselves around the parents.
The eggs laid by either of the parents or both, as the case may be, have started hatching. Such a child will soon demonstrate the skill outside the family.
For that not to become a family identity, someone must take it upon himself to kill the spirit at the infant stage by addressing every issue with gentle spirit.
The most crucial thing here is to always commit everything into the hand of God. He has the power to sort issues without violence.
Parents must take their time to train the children in the way of the LORD. The result of the effort they shall put in training them is the scorecard they will obtain back to the family when the children mix with others.
The bible says in Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
If you are doing any of the above in front of your children, you are also training them what to become eventually. This may make your hands full of issues over them in the future. Enjoy the children may be far from the truth.
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